Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 01, 2024 02:44PM
Okay to lead off I was not married when I pulled 20 plus years ago. Over the years got married and started a family I love with all my heart. Over the last few years I have had some health issues had a blood clot in my leg and two spinal surgeries. Over the last couple of years I have really wanted to just get the old 1466 out and have a little fun at the local county fairs. Main obstacle is the wife has zero interest and it went over like a lead balloon when I have brought it up in the past. I am not looking to get crazy just turn the screw a little and have a little fun. My buddy says I should just do it but I would like to stay married I got a good woman she just has no interest any thoughts guys
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 01, 2024 02:51PM
Get here go find a new one
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 01, 2024 11:40PM
Start tractor, load on trailer, start truck,drive to pull site, start tractor and hook to sled, load tractor on trailer and start truck and drive home,wash and repeat next weekend. She will still be there when you get home or will probably go with you. I took mine to a pull on our first date so she knew what she was getting into ,36 years later still going pulling, I’ve bought a bunch of tractors over the years, she always says don’t come home without it. As long as it’s not financially hurting your family it won’t be a problem,sometimes the bark is worse than the bite.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 01, 2024 11:44PM
I have a friend in the same situation with his wife. She has no interest in his pulling either, however he does it anyway. As long as your hobby doesn't put a financial strain on your home or family, then there is no reason why you can't have a hobby that you would enjoy. I'm sure she has this is that she likes to do without you. If she truly loved you, then she should not care if you have a little fun doing something that you enjoy. Who knows maybe she might go with you sometime and she might actually enjoy seeing you compete? Marriage is a union of mutual Love and Respect, not about controlling each others lives and hobbies. My friend does his thing and she does hers and then they also take trips and do things together also, and they seem to somehow make it work. Best wishes. My advise to you and her is to have that mutual respect for each other and if you both do, then there should be no issue.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 02, 2024 12:45AM
This is something that you have to work yourself into.
Step 1: Negotiate your "Date Nights" as visits to tractor pulls. She doesn't get to dictate all activities.
Step 2: Spend due time in the pits with teams that pull in your class. Form the friendships and develop bonds with fellow competitors and their families.
Step 3: Talk about her experiences at the pulls and see what she didn't like about them. Try to avoid those aspects of the pull, or those people and try to improve her experience by focusing on the good.

It takes a bit of gentle pursuation, but it can happen for you. If she makes a friend in the pits, it makes it a lot easier on you.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years September 02, 2024 11:49AM
Those second and third points are keys to the whole deal.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 02, 2024 04:56AM
I can't believe someone said this in public. Grow a set of balls and go pulling. Its not like you are going on a national tour here. So what if you want to go pulling 6 Saturdays a year. If she can't dill with that than you are married to a selfish B---H. Good luck
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 02, 2024 05:16AM
Biggest thing i have come to learn is the Woman likes to have a role in said hobby. I have seen this amongst many couples. Give her something to do that makes her feel included! That way she is not just "along for the ride"

  • have her assist with loading and unloading (holding truck/trailer brakes, Giving you directions to place tractor on ideal location of trailer, etc)
  • Ask her for her opinion of track conditions
  • have her watch the track prior to your exhibition and relay her observations (left/right/center)
  • have her observe the sled settings (when does the pan drop, when does the drag from the sled increase, areas that you want to avoid, etc)
  • the list can be endless...

Also I do area with finding other pulling families she can bond with and relate to. Lastly don't expect her to just pack the cooler for you. She may associate pulling as another household chore. If you are traveling somewhere beyond your normal locations. Leave a little early to the event and stop somewhere she would enjoy along the way. Depednding on the event you pull at ou may be able to take her for a nice dinner after the event as well.

Best of Luck.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 03, 2024 03:18AM
I have typed and deleted on this a couple times and it boils down to a balancing act of interests, for my case anyway. My wife is a quilter and a baker; so, whenever we're headed to a pull she's scouting out quilt stores and I'm happy to stop and let her take a look..or if she sees a bakery she wants to visit, we stop. She gets something out of the trip as I do, its not a one-way street of experiences. Help her explore her interests as much as you want to explore your own.

In its own way this also speaks to the value of having added interests and activities surrounding a pull. Pulls operated alongside fairs are prime opportunities to get folks to go...pulls with attractions nearby make them what I call "destination" pulls where theres pulling and much more to do before and after. Theres a vast list of events I put under that umbrella and it really just depends on what your outside interests are. For us its a pull in northeast Ohio to visit all the Amish/Mennonite stores in Berlin, Millersburg and other towns.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 03, 2024 12:51PM
Bryan I couldn't agree with you more. My wife is also a quilter and we have been in the Berlin Ohio stores and we also take trips to the Lancaster PA area for fabric. So how do you get your wife interested in pulling, I guess the other side is "do you take an interest in her hobbies "?


Dick Morgan

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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years July 03, 2024 01:11AM
I'm not a puller but I am observant and have friends who do pull, friends who pull but are divorced and friends who gave up pulling. Family comes first. It's gotta be affordable and not take too much time away from important family events. At its core, seems to me that the biggest draw for spouses is the strong friendships that are built with other pulling families. The kids grow up together. Close bonds are made. If you can take her to a pull and she can meet other wives who are enjoying the pulling, that would go a long way. People are "wired" differently. If she didn't grow up around pulling, she's not gonna care for it. But if it's something that you can enjoy together as a family that would actually give the two of you something to do together as you go to the next stage of your lives together.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years September 01, 2024 03:02AM
Ended up pulling and having a great time. First time my daughter ever saw me pull and. Loved it. She is 8 and a lot of my buddies said what have you got about 6 more years in the seat. Another buddy said well when she starts momma’s checkbook well really open up lol. Even wife had fun good times had by all wish everyone a good safe harvest.
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Re: Best way to get wife to sign off on pulling again after 20+ years September 02, 2024 11:53AM
Glad it went well! Enjoy those times in the seat, because we both know you’ll have a copilot before you know it!

Some of the most memorable photos I’ve ever taken have been fathers and their kids walking the track together.
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